How can you hook up with some cool girls you wonder ?
Well it's not that complicated as you think. You have to be a little inventive, confident and fun.
As you can see below, these guys tried a cool game with girls, Rock Paper Scissors.
If the boy is the winner, he gets a kiss, if the girl is the winner she gets to slap him over his face.
Guess what, all went very, VERY well :)
Rock Paper Scissors Kissing Prank de dm_51fc3bea9ea63
Useful article:
A search online for “dating tips for men” reveals hundreds of these sorts of sites, generally requiring a credit card. Usually at the top is a picture of a smiling man, with a tag-line like “Learn the secrets that let me charm 173 women in to bed in a year”, and a short article explaining that the author, too, used to be a shy nervous virgin until he discovered the mysteries of Pick-Up Artistry.
There are many different schools, but most trace their inspiration back to one man, Ross Jeffries, who founded “Speed Seduction” in 1988. The movement achieved real prominence in 2005, with the publication of Neil Strauss's book The Game, in which he described his own journey into the odd subculture.
This is a look at some of the aspects of this weird world. A lot of it is harmless, plenty of it is funny, but a large amount is genuinely unsettling. We haven't linked to any of the sites mentioned, as we are not sure that all the content is appropriate.
The names
You can't get far in the world of pick-up artistry without a silly name. The aforementioned Neil Strauss went under the pseudonym of “Style”. His mentor was known as “Mystery”. Others have called themselves “Juggler”, “Formhandle”, “Ice Dragon” (seriously), and perhaps best of all “Gunwitch”.
The clothes
According to the literature, a true Pick-Up Artist stands out from the crowd – hence the preposterous names. Sartorially, that may mean wearing a fluorescent T-shirt and an asymmetric haircut, or makeup, or platform shoes – Mystery, we are told in The Game, sports the latter. This behaviour, apparently, is called “peacocking”.
The jargon
Similarly, like lots of little boys' clubs, the pick-up artist world has developed its own pseudo-technical language. PUAs, of course, are the Pick-Up Artists themselves (entertainingly, if you get really good, you can be a Pick-Up Guru or PUG). Before they were initiated, they were just AFCs – Average Frustrated Chumps – like the rest of us. They use Displays of High Value (DVH) to impress women with LSE (Low Self Esteem). If she's playing with her hair, it's an Indicator of Interest, or IOI. “Closing” means to seal the deal; there are various levels, including NC, or Number Close, where you get her phone number, KC, or Kiss Close, where you kiss her, and of course FC. See also Kino and Negs, of which more later.
The dubious ethics
If you didn't think deliberately targeting women with low self-esteem was bad enough, a lot of PUAs base their techniques on something called “neuro-linguistic programming” or NLP. It's purportedly a form of hypnosis, similar to what Paul McKenna might use on you if you wanted to think yourself thin. In other words, if this actually worked, PUAs would be hypnotising women into sex. How this would be ethically distinguishable from drugging them is not obvious. Luckily for everyone, research into NLP suggests that it is nonsense anyway; see below.
The pseudoscience
NLP seems to be claptrap (one psychiatrist, Dr Roderique Davis, describes it as “cargo-cult psychology”, meaning that it was designed to look like science without doing any of the work). But a misunderstanding of complex ideas seems to be at the heart of a lot of pick-up artistry. One PUA, a fat man called Gem, once told The Times that Richard Dawkins' The Selfish Gene taught him “everything I know about pick-up”. One of the figureheads of the movement, David DeAngelo (or “Eben Pagan”) claims to be an aficionado of Ayn Rand. There is a lot of talk of “alpha males” and “beta males” and “psychological anchoring”. It is not clear that any of the people involved know what they are talking about. Dr Petra Boynton, the sex educator and blogger, says that there is “no evidence of effectiveness” for any of the PUA claims.
The weird techniques
A few of these have become quite well-known already, especially the “neg” or subtle not-exactly-put-down intended to pique a woman's interest and slightly dent her self-esteem; along the lines of “Nice hair. Is it natural?” But there are thousands, ranging from ordinary activities given needless new names to Dadaist surreal touches. The “Kino”, or kinaesthetic approach, just means touching someone. The aforementioned Mystery has apparently created a “humour technique” called “The Absurd”, which is presumably different from just being witty like any old AFC, and “microcalibrated openers” for starting conversations. Some advocate “re-naming” women, simply ignoring their real names and calling them something else entirely.
The misogyny
Although a lot of the teachers in this community, if that's the word, claim that they are just trying to help men be more confident around women, the jargon and the advice often strays into profoundly uncomfortable territory. Women are known as “targets”. One teacher who we have already mentioned says that it is important not to get nervous when meeting a woman, adding: “Ted Bundy, the infamous serial killer/sociopath, didn't feel fear or panic when he saw a target. He felt rage, sexual perversion and desire to kill.” Yes, you have been advised to use Ted Bundy as a role model in your dealings with women. When advising gentlemen what to do when they are alone with their “target”, the same author says, helpfully: “DO NOT struggle or tug or bear weight on her at this stage, as that is considered rape.”
The men
People who have had dealings with PUAs often use the same term to describe them: “trainspotters”. Like trainspotters, they are obsessed with collecting numbers and statistics; many keep detailed records of every “Close”. The terminology often has a militaristic fantasy feel: even aside from the endless US Army-style acronyms, messages in chatrooms detailing pick-up attempts are called “field reports”, and PUAs discuss “field testing” new techniques, as though they were howitzers rather than glorified chat-up lines. Dr Boynton describes users as “the most vulnerable of men”, and says that the PUA industry is a means of making money from vulnerable people.
